They say that a woman who cuts off her hair is about to change her life, and I'd like to believe that that is what had happened to me. There is usually a direct correlation between what's happening on our heads and what's happening in our lives - my big chop signalled the ending of my past relationship and turning 18, which symbolised the point of my life where I have had to make decisions such as what I want to do and where I want to go for college. I was going through a lot of changes, and so I chose to embark my change of heart through the change of hair. For me, it meant shedding of old skin, and almost like pushing a reset button on my life.
Once the scissors snip away at our split, broken ends, all that has been damaged in our lives falls onto the salon floor, gets swept up and tossed into the garbage, never to be seen again. Getting your hair cut for whatever reason is an easy - yet difficult - way to mark a fresh start at that point of your life. Is there actually a more powerful way to embark on a journey of personal transformation than to begin with the literal cutting off of the old and starting anew?

Hair holds so much more energy than most of us are aware of. It is a personal statement, an air of strength, and cutting it off can be incredibly liberating. And that's exactly how I felt when I decided to take the leap in January 2014, a month after I turned sweet 18. I can't say this was one of the best decisions of my life because there are bigger things than just getting a haircut; but in this post I wanted to share with you a few reasons why cutting your hair short isn't all unpretty, and to stress the fact that a lot of people seem to neglect the realisation that when a woman cuts her hair - she is cutting off so much more.

For the longest time we have been brainwashed into thinking that the image of long, flowing locks is the sole definition of beauty. This has made it easy for us to rely on our hair as our blanket to feel confident, and getting rid of this shield would mean that you're left with not much choice but to be bold and confidently liberated. Close your eyes to society's standard of beauty only present in long, luxurious hair for a second - don't you see a more honest and daring visual of sexiness

I didn't always dream of getting a cut as short as how I had it, but as a gal who was known for swaying from one look to another, I guess I was bound to get an undercut at some stage. If I remember correctly, Miley Cyrus had just broken up with ex-fiancĂ© Liam Hemsworth too around the time that I had.. hence the tongue-out pose, I suppose. 

Long hair is nestled deeply into the crux of the comfort zone. Short hair exposes and highlights the physique of a woman - in a way long hair simply cannot. When you cut your hair short, you're bound to notice things about your face that you may not have taken notice of before. Having my sides shaved really made me feel exposed, cut off from a falsified sense of protection long hair is known to bring. My entire face in all its great width was on full display - and I didn't even contour (much) then. If you're new to a change of appearance like this, you will feel vulnerable and maybe a little uneasy for a while but that quickly passes, and you'll soon find that the payoff will be worth the vulnerability. At the end of the day, your hair is.. well, gone; and unless you have a couple hundred to spare on hair extensions then you're stuck with your new chopped hair - but if you do that then it beats the whole purpose of why you ever considered getting your long hair chopped. OWN IT!

It's no new news that people talk; I learned that me cutting my hair made a lot of people (conservative and traditional adults, more so) uncomfortable because in their eyes, it was out of the norm - rebellious - often aligned with one's change or question of sexuality. I remember my Mam telling me she has had to defend me from some of these ill judgements, explaining that I'm just really deep into experimenting and expressing my style.. Well if it wasn't for my parents themselves pitching in the idea of me getting a pixie cut in the first place, maybe she wouldn't have had to hear of such dirt! (I know the hair chop didn't quite turn out like a pixie cut, I wussed out a little bit and didn't want to be left with too little hair, lol.) Needless to say, I got a lot of comments, all sorts.. it lead to many interesting conversations. 

Generally, short hair meant quick routine, a wash-and-go thing. It wasn't for me. I found myself blow-drying my hair nearly as long as I would have with my long locks, because I didn't like how my super fine straight hair fell (too damn) flat on my head. I had to dry it in a way that my side fringe would puff to the side nicely, and the back voluminously (well, as much as the little hair I had would let me.) The second or third day of not having it washed was when I could dry-shampoo-and-go though, so that was nice. 

Another cool thing about a change like this is that if you decide to grow it out again, you will have to go through several lengths (yes, awkward and undesirable lengths included, especially with an undercut!) but you can have a lot of fun along the way with each. Experimentation and the general experience of new things is always fun. After all, true beauty lies within the ones who have authentic personal style; the ones who have creative vision that is expressed through their own definition of beauty; those who abandon convention, opting for originality instead. As the quote goes: Beauty fades; style is everlasting.

Cutting my hair short, I'd like to think, was a way to inspire others, making them feel beautiful with their own style and image. It needn't necessarily be to cut their hair as short as I did, but rather that it's refreshing to make a big change, to do something that is out of your usual comfort zone. I would have loved to donate the chopped length to an organisation that made wigs for ladies and girls with cancer so as to make another gal feel more beautiful along with my rebirth, but unfortunately it was in such a delicate state. Some day, maybe I still could.. who knows! 

I wore my hair long from the moment that it grew long, but I've gone through several hair colour changes (which will make up Part II of my little Hair Transformation series, eeeek!) Going through those s e v e r a l hair colour changes has ultimately driven my hair to its death bed, the salon chair.. 
What was once luscious and unbreakable is now frail and wispy. The incessant abuse I bestowed upon my strands with the brutal weaponry of hot irons, teasing combs and bleach has wreaked severe havoc. I didn't believe that even the most expensive hair treatment could breathe life into hair so DEAD. The only thing to do is get rid of it and start the f*ck over. 

True for life and hair. 

Looking back on my hair transformation, I can proudly say that having the courage to cut my hair meant that I cut myself from most of what I was, to be everything I am and yet to be; & I look forward to the next big change. 

Sure, short hair isn't for everyone. But if you ever wanted to make a physical change that doesn't require breaking your bank and wouldn't cause you emotional distress, do consider giving your hair a complete make-over. I hope that if you are considering , this post encouraged you to go for it. 

I'd love to know - have you taken the leap yet and done it or are you still thinking about it? If so, what is stopping you?

Until Part II, 

1 comment:

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