Yet her heart is made of gold


As I type this post with black nail polished fingers and a head to toe black loungewear ensemble, I know there are more than a few of you reading this who can relate to my chosen lifestyle: black clothing. Wearing all black is more than just a sartorial choice. There's a very specific kind of person to whom an entirely black wardrobe appeals, and they tend to be ambitious, bold, self-empowering and unapologetic about it all. 

I'm definitely not the girliest person I know and my wardrobe reflects just that. From work to college to the gym to the streets to the bars and just about everywhere in between, you would usually find me dressed in black. Why? Because it makes me feel damn great. Black is trying (if not achieving,) without actually trying. And isn't that the look everyone is secretly trying to achieve? Every piece of clothing always looks better in black. Anything that comes in any other colour will always look better in black, so why bother trying something else? People don't realise how much you can get away with when you're wearing black. You still have pieces kept for donkey's ears because they still work layered with newer pieces. You never get tired of black, and you are always finding new ways to wear black. Experimental style can look crazy when it's colourful, but with black you can take risks and pull it off easily. The calming effects of black are extremely unappreciated, regardless of the rising popularity of minimal monochromatic Instagram feeds - how can you not feel zen looking at a palette like this? While visually appealing, black also evokes emotion. Nothing says "F*** off, please" quite like an all-black ensemble, which may frankly be the number one reason you see so many people rocking it - because let's face it, people hate to be bothered. I think of black as my armour that adds a note of seriousness to my presence, almost like a warning that reads "This person is not to be f*cked with, not today" - and I will always prefer it that way. Kind of like that quote by Yohji Yamamoto: "Black is modest and arrogant at the same time. Black is lazy and easy - but mysterious. But above all black says this: "I don't bother you - don't bother me". I also like to think that regardless of how petite I am in size, black clothing makes me look more mature, makes me look like my life is completely under control and that I know wtf I'm doing. I don't, at least not always. 
As if we needed any more reasons to justify it, black is a godsend for slobs and messy eaters since any stain can easily be washed, whipped or blotted off. Stains? What stains? Dealing with coffee stain in the morning might not require much of an effort, but you know what does? Picking out an outfit that matches. And you know what requires little to no effort in the morning? Throwing on an all-black get-up. This technique is guaranteed to save at least ten minutes of your time that you could instead be using to make sure you get yourself to the bus stop on time because we know better than relying on timetables only to miss the goddamn bus anyway. For people who make significant decisions every day, the removal of even one - choosing clothes in the morning - leaves them with more mental space and better productivity throughout the day. If you must know, this forms the basis for former President Barack Obama's limited fashion options, "You'll see I wear only gray or blue suits. I'm trying to pare down decisions. I don't want to make decisions about what I'm eating or wearing, because I have too many other decisions to make.
Fads may come and go, but black is forever. 
Black makes a statement.
Black is elegant and chic.
Black is bold and powerful.
Black is professional and sexy.
Black looks good with all hair colours.
Black looks good on all skin tones.
Black looks good on men as it does on women.
Black is timeless.
Black will always be the new black, not orange.
And definitely not pink - not even on Wednesdays. 
According to study, women who wear all black lead very colourful lives. They tend to be driven and hard-working and balance out all the chaos in their sartorial choices. They are perceived as more attractive, successful and confident. They have a "walk softly, carry a large stick" mentality. They are unassuming. Perhaps Coco Chanel said it best: "Women think of all colours except the absence of colour. I have said that black has it all.. its beauty is absolute. It is the perfect harmony.
It is suggested that women who wear all black are a terrifying combination of elegant and intimidating (you know, the kind of intimidating that lets you know she is dressed for your funeral without having to say a word). I see every aspect of my life as a potential avenue of self-expression. I won't always buy into trends nor follow the crowd. Unless you place any special value in my life, I do not act with the intention of winning over your appreciation, respect, and praises. Women like I do not need your approval, but will make sure you recognise what we're doing and how we like to do it and what kind of impact we have on others. Above all else, I value self-empowerment. If there is anything scarier than a graceful woman who is in equal parts a raging, unstoppable badass, I'll believe it when I see it.
By now, you get it. I get black. And black gets me. 
I understand that with all the great reasonings I have for wearing black, its tendency to be one-dimensional shall be avoided with a few guidelines to keep in mind: 
When putting together a black-on-black, fit becomes even more important. While I don't and won't be taking this advice myself, take advantage of the fact that black is slimming and have the clothes be more fitted and flattering, rather than shapeless and drab, if that's what would make you feel more fabulous. 
Vary the fabrics and textures. Nothing looks more shabby than an all-black outfit that is all cotton. On the fabric note, make sure the fabric selection is season appropriate. A black wool dress will look gorge in the fall, but out of place during the summer. Silk and linen for example make it easier to pull off the all-black look during the warmer months. For my outfit, although I'm wearing leather boots in early July, I balance it out by showing some skin with a v light mesh t-shirt dress. 
I do admit this outfit is a little bland, lacking taste of accessories. Had the look been shot another day, I would've worn delicate hoop earrings and maybe bangles, topped off with an envelope clutch or a cute faux crocodile skin sling bag. Accessories add interest, and bold jewellery becomes the statement piece of your outfit. In this sitch, it's the tortoise shell heel of my boots and the floral applique on my sheer mesh piece, definitely.
The simplest trick is to make your outfit more dressy or casual with a change of lip colour. A LBD or an ABE (all black everything, can we make that a thing?) can go from day (with a light nude stain) to night (with a bold, deep red lip) seamlessly. 


*Pretty Little Thing | Mesh t-shirt dress
*Pretty Little Thing | Ankle boots

This post is kindly sponsored by Pretty Little Thing: Products marked with * are sent to me but my thoughts on and impressions of them are in no way swayed, all are my own.

PHOTO CREDITS: @ayeshabeans

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"I wore black because I liked it. I still do, and wearing it still means something to me. It's still my symbol of rebellion — against a stagnant status quo, against our hypocritical houses of God, against people whose minds are closed to others' ideas."
- Johnny Cash


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